It is a life long commitment that restrains self-centeredness, self-indulgence and self-gratification. Of course I don’t want my marriage to fail, do you? You want it to last for life.
As at May 24th 2014, the divorce rate is still high in the U.S.A at 53%, but Spain, Portugal, Luxembourg, Czech rep and Hungary are worse off with divorce rates higher than 60%. Belgium has the highest rate of divorce at a staggering 70%.
When we don’t understand the purpose of a thing, the abuse is inevitable, and then we begin to misinterpret motives..
The reason why most marriages fails is because they never get it right from onset… looking at this stat, I ask myself, why would I want to begin this journey?
Many youths today are asking the same question because everyone deeply desire the security and joy of a lifelong relationship…
So in this article am going to discuss some reasons why marriages fails and divorce rate culminate so that every youths who aspire to get married will learn from this and don’t make the same mistakes.
1) Goals: Every successful marriage is the product or the outcome of the operator’s understanding... Both parties must be driven by the same goal, the man and the woman must be malleable i.e No one is the BOSS… couples with shared interest are more likely to participate in activities together and develop greater understanding and empathy for each other.
2) Avoiding responsibilities: Marriage requires a lot of maturity regardless of age. you and your partner need to be able to handle responsibilities, challenges and trials that all marriages go through. If one partner avoids duties and often pass it to the other, the marriage will eventually fail.
3) Job: It is important for both husband and wife to understand the job requirement of each other… There is no problem with being a career person but my main point here is, your home comes first…. I've seen many homes crumbled just because all the home responsibilities is done by the house maid including sex…. Both parties must create time for each other.
4). Secret: once you get married, you don’t have any right to keep things to yourself anymore. The bible says a man and a woman will then become one... so it is advisable you don’t keep any secret from your partner… secret not shared has a greater propensity to destroy your marriage.
5). Pity: Don’t marry your partner out of pity… the bedrock of every successful marriage is love and not pity.
6). Beauty: You may fall in love with the beauty of someone, but remember that finally you have to live with the CHARACTER, not the BEAUTY..
7). Genotype: It is advisable that you undergo genotype tests before getting married. This will help the intending couple to know if they are medically fit to have children and also how to avoid health complication…
8). Thrills and spark: Don’t ever stop dating your partner, don’t ever stop flirting with your partner… lack of thrills in marriage is one of the reason marriages fails.
9). Expectation Problem: Unrealistic expectation is the root of problem and over time, unmet expectations can generate enough satisfaction to make meaningful compromise impossible.
10). Sexual Infidelity: when needs for sex and affection are not met, problems erupt. You don’t marry to get roommate, your duty is to satisfy your partner and failure to this can cause problem in marriage.
11). Cheating your Partner: Having extramarital affairs is one of the reason why marriages fails… if their is anyone you should flirt with, it’s your partner.
12). Commitment: This is the glue that holds marriages together. Giving your time to couple related activities… don’t ever stop saying “I love you” to your partner, call your partner names like( Honey, mine, dear, sweetheart, darling, my angel, my king…..) always appear sexy and not only on occasions.
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Communication: A marriage is on the rocks when the line of communication fails. Don’t expect your partner to know what you want or what your problem is without communicating
There are many more reasons why marriages fail... such as family pressure, money issues, change of location due to job, ones belief that it’s a contract, abuse, lack of appreciation, lack of trust, pride and ego, low self-esteem, early marriage and many more…
Please Drop your own view in the comment box…. Together we can make divorce rate minimal…