Relationships
aren't easy to walk away from, even when you know that it's not going to work
out and situations hint that staying is a waste of time, you settle because the
thought of walking away from something you've put years into breaks your heart.
If you don’t
like where you are in life, there comes a point when you must give up the part
of you that’s keeping you back.
Walking away
from unhealthy relationship is difficult. This is one of the reasons why people
all over the world choose to stay in unhealthy or unfulfilling relationships,
despite an inner witness urging them to leave. Rather than heed this warning,
people seek out or invent reasons to justify staying.
What is it
that keeps us to stick it out in these relationships that are clearly not
healthy for us or our partner?
There are
many reasons why men and women stay in an unhealthy relationship.
The following
will explain some of the reasons why people decide not to call it a quit in a
harmful relationship.
Feeling it will get better.
If your
relationship is not broken, there is no need to fix it. If it’s broken beyond
repair, stop wasting your time and resources and accept that you need to throw
it away.
There are
some things that will get better with time while some will not. If you find out
that you two are incompatible, the problem isn’t something that’s going to
improve with time, but only increase your hatred over time, so therefore
evaluate the severity of the problems and if they are worth the time and effort
to fix.
Feeling of unworthiness
Low
self-esteem keeps people in unhealthy relationships. When you don’t know how
much you are actually worth, and when you haven’t found a way to accept, honour,
love and respect all that you are, unconsciously or not, you will allow other
people to treat you poorly.
You don’t
have to work like a slave to make your relationship work. If it’s a constant
struggle, and if it brings the worst out of both of you, it’s not really a
healthy and loving relationship.
Do yourself
a big favour and honestly evaluate and understand your motivations for staying
in the relationship for so long. Remember that you are beautiful, handsome, worthy
of love, and you deserve to have the love and respect that you want in a
relationship.
Regret
Regret is
not the pain or shame you will face when you call an unhealthy relationship a
quit. It’s something that will come when you’re fifty years old and realize you
have spent all your time with the wrong person.
It’s hard
breaking free from bad relationships because it means coming to terms that you
stayed in a bad relationship for a long time, and facing the fact that it was a
mistake.
Facing the fact to quit rather than justifying your actions so that you never have to feel that you did something wrong is the best decision you could ever make.
Facing the fact to quit rather than justifying your actions so that you never have to feel that you did something wrong is the best decision you could ever make.
Loneliness
Staying in
an unhealthy relationship may keep you from being alone but it will not keep
you from wishing you had someone who didn’t make you feel so lonely.
If the fear
of being alone is keeping you in an unhealthy relationship, find some friends,
family member to spend time with till you find the right person who will never
make you feel lonely.
Relationships
are not essential for survival, bad relationships are definitely more harmful
to you than no relationship at all. Don’t think of what the morning will look
like when you wake up alone.
''i hope you fall in love with someone who makes you question why you ever thought you would be better off alone''...- Macklemore
''i hope you fall in love with someone who makes you question why you ever thought you would be better off alone''...- Macklemore
Security and comfort
There are so
many people who care more about having security and comfort than they care
about having peace of mind, because they assume that the separation from their
partner would lead to all kind of inconveniences.
They are so used to a certain lifestyle, and even though they are trapped and unhappy in their relationship, they stay for the security and the comfort.
For the many years they’ve shared
their lives
The fact
that you’ve invested so much of your time and resources in that relationship
isn’t an excuse to stay in an unhealthy relationship.
Time is
indeed one of the most precious things that people take from us, but the secret
is, it’s never wasted.
Every month, year we spend in a relationship that doesn’t work out is just a learning experience. And you should stop hurting yourself because of the time you’ve spent in the unfulfilling relationship by walking away from it.
You are afraid you won’t get someone
better
You are afraid
if you leave, you will feel desperate to find someone else quickly because you
think you are running out of time. You may also feel that making things work is
much better than having to start all over again, with someone new. None of
these are good reasons to stay in a relationship it is not working.
If you are
in a relationship and the connection has died and communication has stopped,
take heart. You can begin to express yourself honestly and openly.
While it may
take time to reconnect with each other, if both partners are willing, it’s
possible for the connection to eventually heal. Find things to do together that
will allow for communication – and are fun.
Find out who
you are to your partner and who your partner is to you. Take turns doing the things
that you each enjoy. Pick something new to do together.
If your partner is not
able or is unwilling to communicate or respond to the process, you may have to
consider the possibility of leaving. It is not healthy to stay in a
relationship that won't allow you to be authentic...
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