Let’s take a look at some things people in healthy
relationship don’t do...
(1) They don’t expect perfection.
Relationships are not easy and don’t expect
it to be. No one is created as a perfect being, and don’t expect perfection
from your partner.
Expecting such from your partner will
always end in disappointment. Only do that if you are perfect.
Expecting
the best from your partner isn’t wrong, it’s all about being real. You can only
make things better by working on improvements rather than perfection.
(2) They don’t fake feelings.
There is nothing better for your happiness
and your relationship than to express your true feelings. Don’t pretend to be
happy if you are not. Be real and honest.
Don’t
give a sign or an expression that all is well when it’s not. That is how you
grow together.
(3) They don’t fight to win but to fix.
In a healthy relationship, a fight means
there is real effort on both sides to see the other person’s point of view, to understand
each other’s feeling, and work towards an equitable resolution.
Communicating your needs lovingly, allowing
yourself to be vulnerable, and finding resolutions are powerful tools to build
intimacy, connection and trust. But in an unhealthy relationship, a fight is an
avenue for payback.
(4) They don’t focus on their partner’s flaws.
People in healthy relationship encourage
each other. Everyone has imperfections, but they don’t make up the totality of
someone’s character.
We choose where we want to place our
attention. And as the saying goes, where an attention goes,
energy flows. The
more you look for flaws, the more problem you create.
Always look for the best in your partner,
see the beauty in them and not their flaws. Happy couples accentuate the
positive.
(5) They don’t give with expectation to
receive.
In a healthy relationship we give out of love,
empathy and mutual respect. Partners give just because they can and not because
they expect in returns but in unhealthy relationships, giving is used as a tool
to get something back in return.
(6) They don’t hold grudges.
No one gets points for saying “I’m sorry”.
Apologizing to your partner isn’t about making tiff go away, it’s about
overcoming an issue as a team.
In a healthy relationship, you choose to be
happy rather than being right. You can’t change the past but you can make peace
with it by forgiving your loved ones.
(7) They don’t talk when they need to listen.
It takes some courage to stand and speak. It
takes even more to open one’s mind to listen.
Healthy relationships require some talking
and a whole lot of listening. When you open your mind and ears to listen, you
create a platform for the other person to express him/herself openly and really
be understood.
(8) They don’t communicate wrongly.
There is a difference between a complaint
and a constructive comment. In healthy relationships, you communicate what you
want. For instance, it’s much more effective to say “I need some money for my
hair-do” rather than saying “you spend too much on drinking with your friends”
Your positive approach to things will
definitely help to put your partner at ease rather than sending a signal of
war.
(9) They don’t keep secret.
Many believe trust is the foundation of
every relationship, but there are a lot of things that actually make up the
foundation.
Trust plays an integral role in building a
relationship. When trust is broken in a relationship, it takes time and
willingness on the part of both people involved to repair it and heal.
Always imbibe the idea to speak the truth
no matter what the consequences. Being honest is the only way to be at peace with
yourself and your partner.
(10) They
don’t take their relationship for granted.
Your inputs in your relationship breathe
life into them. Paying close attention in your relationship is what should
constantly happen because people need validation that they matter, even if they
have a lot of confidence in themselves.
People in healthy relationships create time
for their partner to show they care otherwise, their partner won’t feel they
make any contribution or impact at all to make the relationship work.
Stay Healthy