Successful
marriages are not built on mere dreams and wishes alone. The sparks and
thrills, the goose bumps and cold shivers that run through the spine are not
just enough to sustain a relationship that may lead to marriage.
It feels
good when your heart skips at the appearance of your lover, the adrenaline rush
experience in your blood stream is just enough to keep you in a constant state
of ecstasy for the moment and the nostalgic feelings that spring up later on
from what seems like unexplainable is just perfect.
This is just a fraction of
the big picture of the intermittent physiological responses developed by the
body systems of two love birds.
These
feelings and personal experiences which may differ for various individuals seem
unavoidable because they seem to just happen in a flash, they happen without
even being thought about and it is like the consent of the individual is not
needed in the first place.
Here, the mind game is in play but this is not
enough to make a relationship flourish
making your relationship thrive goes way beyond thinking of your partner, you should think for him/her too.
making your relationship thrive goes way beyond thinking of your partner, you should think for him/her too.
Thinking of You or Thinking for You
Basically,
strong relationships are built on love which makes thinking of one’s partner
inevitable. It is not a crime when thoughts of the person you are with flood
your mind as it is almost unexplainable.
The mind seems to be on a journey of
past encounters and activities, hopes and expectations for the future- dreams
and aspirations for the next rendezvous with pleasing images of your partner
carved in the background of your thoughts coupled with the varying voice
patterns echoing rhythmically. This journey often times ends with a big grin
which of course might not be seen on usual days.
Thinking of
your partner as good as it feels might not be enough to sustain a long-lasting
relationship as it is not an “active” ingredient. It leaves no positive impact
on your partner since you are not even involved in real life situations; your
personal potentials are not usually put to work and are therefore minimized as
far as the person you are involved with is concerned.
Thinking for
your partner on the other hand is like responding to a call with the sole
intention to make things better in your partner’s life on the basis of what you
feel for him/her-LOVE. A must read.. How your relationship affects your life span
Here, honesty is one of the keys to reckon with as
constructive criticisms might evolve. You express your candid opinions; give
advice on how to improve situations, offer help to make him/her a better person
etc. There is no room to compete with but complete your partner.
You need
people who are capable of inspiring, motivating and assisting you. The one who
loves you truly will want the best for you. His mission should be to make you
happy, protect you and become a solution, not a problem.
To Be Continued>>>>>>>>
written by: Seun Olanrewaju..