Most people are currently in some sort of relationship, association or contact with someone else. Our relationships sometimes become deeper and more meaningful while some don’t stand the test of time as they fade away.
Considering
the deeper and stronger relationships we find ourselves in, we start wondering
whether we are liked or loved and whether the person we are with is the one.
However, serious relationships cannot be built on mere attraction, no matter
how strong it might be.
There should
be a sense of assurance and peace of mind (inner witness as some Christians
prefer to call it). Your heart should not contradict or contrast what your mind
tells you. This can be referred to as harmony and balance.
If your heart is not in alignment with what
your mind tells you, then there are chances that you are with the wrong person.
However, it is a very
responsible step to decide to spend the rest of your life with someone you have feelings for.
responsible step to decide to spend the rest of your life with someone you have feelings for.
This series would contain different points to
consider if the person you are with is genuine
or fake.
PART ONE...
PART ONE...
Care or Paying Attention?
Do you feel
that the person you are with cares about you or is it that he simply pays
attention?, we pay attention even to strangers because of the fact that it is
acceptable in our society. It is usually seen as an act of kindness or
politeness and doesn’t necessarily mean that you are in love with the person.
It doesn’t come as a response to a very strong feeling since you can pay
attention to anyone that comes your way without considering their looks or the feelings
you have towards them. Note that when you are in a relationship with someone
who pays attention, it’s all about the benefits they get.
The attention you get is based on what you
really have to offer, sometimes inadvertently. I refer to those who pay
attention as players or manipulators who play on the mind of their partners all
for their own selfish ambition.
Contrary to
paying attention that sends fake signals is care. It is a response to a feeling
inside of you; a will to be burdened; a passion to be bothered about what the
other person is going through; a mindset of course based on strong will power
to partake or share in whatever might look so big to handle even when you know
you might get nothing in return.
It is a step farther than paying attention
since those who pay attention have nothing else to pay, no willingness to
influence situations except their own satisfaction.
A partner
that pays attention might be really good but I would prefer to spend the rest
of my life with someone that really cares. You should be able to decipher if
your partner really cares or is just paying attention, remain healthy.
TO BE
CONTINUED>>>>>
Written BY: Seun Olanrewaju