In this day
and age, it’s easy to separate the gentlemen from the
boys, because there are a few things real gentlemen do in their relationship
that other men don’t. let’s see which of these things real gentlemen do to keep
their relationship healthy that you do, shall we?
(1)
Treat her like a lady
Boyfriends aren’t born great, they
become good boyfriends by knowing how to behave with women and the girl they
love.
One
of the first steps in getting the admiration of a girl you like is to treat her
like a lady. Learn to be chivalrous and understand what it takes to make her
feel special
.
It’s easy to play nice until you get the girl, and treat her like you don’t
care once the chase is over, but guys who do that will never be able to hold on
to a great girl who’s desired by all guys.
(2)
Respect her as a person
You
can’t expect your girlfriend to do everything you want or behave the way you
expect her to, just because she’s your girlfriend.
Remember that she’s just your girlfriend, you
don’t own her and shouldn’t expect her to behave like a trained monkey just because
she likes you or you’re getting some action in bed with her.
If you want to know how to be a good boyfriend, learn to treat
your girlfriend with respect and pay attention to her needs. Don’t take her
words lightly or ignore her advice just because she’s a ‘girl’. If you truly do
love your girlfriend, you would respect her too.
(3)
Remember the special days
It’s really arrogant when a guy forgets a
special occasion and then
says it’s no big deal. If your own special day can be important, why can’t you
understand that women give equal attention to their special days too.
Try
to make a conscious effort to understand your girlfriend and remember the
special days if she’s indeed important to you.
(4) Be caring and affectionate.
For men, what matters is physical intimacy and sex. For women, sex is important,
but they do appreciate a lot of affection too.
Just
like sex matters to men, cuddles and affection matter just as much for women.
Show your affection by spending time holding hands or sitting down in each
other’s arms while having a conversation.
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(5) Don’t take your girlfriend for
granted.
One of the most important aspects of knowing how to be a good boyfriend is to
avoid taking your girlfriend for granted.
If
she gives you a foot massage or cooks a delicious meal for you over the weekend,
just don’t take your girlfriend for granted and expect the same every weekend.
In a healthy relationship, both partners have
to understand the efforts of their lover and realize that every simple gesture
is a sign of love and affection that should never be taken for granted.
(6) Support your girlfriend when she’s
in need.
All of us need a helpful hand when we’re in need. You don’t need to be
clingy and become her Man Friday who’s there to answer her every beck and call.
But when your girlfriend genuinely asks you for
advice or help, be there to help her out. It’s always reassuring for a girl to
know that she can depend on her man for a helpful hand.
(7) Learn to apologize.
It may be egoistically painful to apologize, but sometimes, it’s a generous and
yet humble move when a man can apologize to his girlfriend even if he’s not the
one who’s wrong.
In
the heat of an argument, it’s easy to get egoistic and have tempers flying on a
high, but always remember that a simple apology can end the fight and help both
of you communicate better.
(8) Listen to her needs.
Communicate and understand her needs and wants. Try to understand your
girlfriend’s feelings, and even if she ever does sulk or behave grumpily, try
to understand what’s going on in her mind instead of retaliating back in anger.
Sometimes,
women may find it easier to sit by themselves or throw an angry fit instead of
getting straight to the point. It’s one of the differences in the way men and women
react to pain or anger.
(9) Don’t try to dominate her.
Most guys have a tendency to dominate their girlfriends. It may start out
subtly in little ways like watching a favorite show or telling the girlfriend
to avoid speaking to a few particular friends.
But eventually, the urge to control a partner grows to an uncontrollable level,
especially after marriage and even more so if the man’s the sole breadwinner.
This is one of the worst ways of trying to hold a relationship together.
Instead of trying to dominate, learn to communicate. You can’t cage a lover or
try to manipulate them into becoming what you want them to be.
Love is about the attraction between two individuals.
If you try to change someone, it’s not love that’s holding both of you
together, it’s your insecurity and cowardliness.
(10) Push your girlfriend to be a better
person.
Most guys assume a relationship is all about being happy and in love, and
having a great time in bed. But that’s not where love ends. Help your girlfriend
become a better person and help her overcome her flaws.
When
both of you try to make each other better individuals by overcoming each
others flaws, you can achieve more happiness and satisfaction out of life.
Learn to positively criticize your girlfriend and help her with her flaws at
the same time help her become a better person and she’ll love you and respect
you a lot more.
- Syfur cares